जेहि कें जेहि पर सत्य सनेहू। सो तेहि मिलइ न कछु संदेहू।।
Love – a strong feeling of affection, fondness, tenderness and warmth, and the most misunderstood concept ever. It’s a basic need for development of emotional intelligence and otherwise also. My quest for love began some 35 years ago, the day I was born.
So let’s define love in one word – Unconditional.
There is absolutely no room for love where conditions apply.
The second attribute of love is Involuntary.
The literal meaning of involuntary – done without will or conscious control. Love is involuntary as in we cannot force ourselves to love someone just because we are suppose to love them. For example: When two people are united in a marriage they are supposed to love each other but there might be an emotional disconnect. Vice-versa, two people say A and B may be madly in love with one another, while on a social tangent they might be with different companions. They aren’t allowed to fall for each other but we just cannot NOT love someone voluntarily.
Love is unreasonable and inexplicable.
It is kind of instinctive. That’s my latest find. Once I went out with this guy and immediately fell for him, while he kept looking at all his so called flaws and asking me indirectly my reasons. Perhaps he was more calculative and less instinctive so now we are strangers with memories. Memories that are enchanting, engaging and so spellbinding that just about entangles with sensibility.
Love never goes into nothingness
In case of a separation, as in death or divorce or any kind of dissociation, we do not cry only for that other. We also cry because we feel that we have lost the love that was within us for them. Our affection for the bereaved kin remains unharmed, unflawed, untouched and safe inside the mind. It’s only the physical existence of that person that goes away.
Hatred or misplaced love
Hatred – detestation, loathing, abhorrence and resentment. At times, when love is not reciprocated or perceived the way we wanted, it sometimes gets incorrectly positioned. Hate is merely a form of misplaced love. Though not all forms of hatred are twisted love.
Most importantly, materialism can be desired not loved. I myself am an absolute aficionado of bags, belts and shoes, trust me they can be done without.
If we sort out our emotions well (love being the strongest one), not rush into relationships for social factors, we will become more self contained and satisfied. So, love thyself, your work and people around you indiscriminately. Be that passionate soul which seeks unconditionality on this bourgeois planet.
N.B. I intended to write about delicious soulful self love in this article, but self seemed to be transient while I was lost in love.
– Neha J
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